Feel Like a Team Again — Relationship Coach in San Diego, CA
Practical, warm coaching for couples who love each other and keep getting stuck — taught by a married couple who've been there.
A Couple Who Coaches Couples
We've been married for twenty-two years, and we nearly didn't make it past year seven. What turned things around wasn't a grand gesture — it was learning, slowly and clumsily, how to talk when we were both upset.
We trained as coaches so we could teach other couples what we wish someone had taught us. Every session has both of us in the room, so neither partner ever feels outnumbered.
- ✓Married 22 years, coaching together since 2012
- ✓Certified coaches, trained through an ICF-accredited program
- ✓Evening and Saturday sessions in Hillcrest or by video call
You Don't Need a Crisis to Ask for Help
The Same Fight, Again
Different topic, same argument — and nobody feels heard by the end of it.
Roommates, Not Partners
Logistics, kids and work fill every conversation. The two of you got lost somewhere.
A Big Step Ahead
Engaged, moving in or expecting — and you want to start the next chapter well.
Ways to Work With Us
Every option starts with a free 20-minute call so you can meet us both.
What We Work On Together
Slow the Argument Down
A simple structure for hard conversations, so you can disagree without it spiraling.
Hear What's Underneath
Most fights aren't about the dishes. We help you find — and say — what they're really about.
Repair Faster
Every couple fights. Strong couples come back together quickly. We'll practice how.
Make Room for Each Other
Small weekly rituals that keep you close when life gets busy.
Two Days That Can Change the Year
Some couples don't want to wait months for things to shift. The intensive is two private days with both of us — about ten hours of coaching, spread across a Friday and Saturday, with long breaks to walk and talk on your own.
You'll leave with a clear picture of your patterns, a plan for the next ninety days and two follow-up sessions to keep it going.
- ✓About ten hours of private coaching over two days
- ✓Held in our Hillcrest office — or by video if you prefer
- ✓Two follow-up sessions within six weeks
Choose a Pace That Fits Your Life
Sessions are 75 minutes with both coaches. Pay per session or save with a package.
Single Session
Pay as you go.
- 75 minutes with both coaches
- In person or by video
- A written takeaway after each session
Eight-Session Package
The package most couples choose.
- Eight 75-minute sessions
- Weekly or every other week
- Written takeaways after each session
- Email check-ins between sessions
Reconnection Intensive
Two private days.
- About ten hours of coaching
- A 90-day plan to take home
- Two follow-up sessions
From Couples We've Coached
We'd been having the same argument about chores for three years — except it was never really about chores. Tessa and Mark helped us hear what was underneath it. We still disagree sometimes, but now we actually finish the conversation.
Premarital coaching was the best wedding money we spent. We talked through money, in-laws and how we fight before any of it became a problem, and we walked into our marriage with a plan instead of assumptions.
My husband wasn't ready to come, so I started on my own. Six weeks later he asked to join. Having both of them in the room — a couple coaching a couple — made him feel like nobody was taking sides.
Questions Couples Ask Us
Is relationship coaching the same as couples therapy?
No. We're coaches, not licensed therapists. Coaching is practical and future-focused. If there's a mental health concern, addiction, or any abuse in the relationship, we'll refer you to a licensed professional.
What if my partner doesn't want to come?
Start with individual coaching. Many partners join later once they see it's practical and nobody is taking sides.
Do you only see couples in San Diego?
No — about half our couples meet us by video from across the US. San Diego couples can also meet in our Hillcrest office.
Do you work with unmarried and LGBTQ+ couples?
Yes. We coach couples of every kind, whether you're dating, engaged, married or somewhere in between.
How many sessions will we need?
It varies. Some couples come for a focused few sessions; others work with us over several months. We'll check in on progress every few sessions.
Is what we share kept private?
Yes, except in the rare situations where someone's safety is at risk — we'll explain these on the first call. We also never hold secrets one partner asks us to keep from the other.
The Best Time to Start Is Before It Gets Harder
Meet us both on a short call. No pressure, no sales pitch — just a chance to see if we're the right fit.
Let's Set Up a Call
Tell us a little about what's going on and we'll reply personally to set up a call. Sessions are by appointment — evenings and Saturdays in Hillcrest, or by video.